Blending the balance of our desires and beliefs is an ever-going process in our lives.

As men, we all find ourselves struggling from time to time with our urges and our faith. Here you can gain some perspective of fitting these two together.

It is natural to want to stay true to what we believe in. And for most Christian men, it is important that love occur within the boundaries of church.

Sex during marriage only is one of those boundaries.

I don’t judge this tenant. Some people choose to follow it. I believe this is just as valid as the people who choose not to follow it.

Ancient philosophy informs us that partaking of sex with one another mingles a piece of our soul with the other and then continues with us forever.

Keeping your virginity for your wife is a wise choice since this is true in some respects.

But this presents a unique challenge for those men out there who wish to stay true to their faith.

To enable yourself to continue attracting a woman, while fostering a relationship as you wait for marriage is achievable, however, you must take note of a few perspectives.

After all - sex is important! Getting married to someone who’s sexually incompatible with you can be a very difficult union to be in.

This advice is helpful for those men who face the emergence of blending faith and romance.

1. Clarify your beliefs

Keep in mind that things will be easier when you clarify your beliefs, since it is your faith, which guides you through your life.

We all have free will, the ability to think and reason, this is God’s gift to us. We look at all our options while deciding which path we each take. Some of us take it all in and keep what teaching reverberates within our higher self, while others embrace all of their churches teachings.

No matter what your choice, you must be clear on what it is you believe, and stick to it!

2. Trust in the plan God has for you.

Keep your faith in knowing God has a plan to unite you and the woman who is meant for you.

Since you have free will, you have to take action while striving to take advantage of all opportunities presented to you. Remember, God can only do so much.

To find the right woman for you, you must be proactive.

Going out and meeting women, taking them on dates, getting to know them - this is not just stuff that happens. We have to MAKE it happen. And it is our actions which keep us on the path God has set out for us, because our actions are based on what we believe.

3. Know that Virginity is not mystical or precious.

Many people have a notion that virginity is something to be prized, but it really isn’t. Sex is just an act. It’s just like breathing, or walking, or exercising. It is something we do.

God meant for man to be fruitful and multiply. We are meant to have sex. It is one of God’s greatest gifts. If we were not meant to have sex, He would not have made it pleasurable.

So to look at your virginity as something sacred is not helpful. Virginity is meant to be lost - the real challenge is finding the right person to lose it to!

In the end, there is a spiritual aspect to sex. It’s the aspect that you find someone who makes you feel whole, alive, and loved. This is something separate from the act of sex, because this touches you on a deeper level.

It is this type of intimacy you should strive to achieve before marriage, because this will help you to know if the physical aspect will be in tune as well.

Intimacy with women is nothing to be afraid of, hugging, touching and kissing are natural urges and reactions. Nevertheless, true intimacy comes for sharing your hopes and dreams with each other while staring deeply into each others eyes.

4. Women are real people with no need of a pedestal.

When you place too much importance on blending sex and faith, you may find yourself inflating the importance of a woman.

Perhaps you consider her a goddess, a delicate flower, something you should cherish and treat special.

Keep in mind, there isn’t much difference in men and women, since we are all cut from the same cloth. Treating a woman special because of a sexual attraction is not the same as respect.

We can easily love an ideal, yet our challenge is to love the reality of a woman. When she is hungry, she may be cranky, she awakens each day with morning breath and she expects you to take out the garbage, this is reality.

We have to learn to love the reality of women, and not idealize them. Realize that sex is just one aspect to the females of our species. And that being human, we all share similar traits.

Understanding that women as people are just like men, this enables us to gain a better perspective of whether we are meant to share our lives with them.