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When you think of anger or hate, it often disillusions you. Because many people have made hatred, anger, etc a common action in society, some of these people confuse exactly what extent they can take these emotions.

In short, it is ok to feel angry. All of us at one time have expressed angry emotions. Expression is the key, but how we express this anger takes part in our outcomes. For instance, if we feel angry, become aggressive and beat up our neighbor, we can expect the outcomes to be negative as well. Likely, we will find ourselves sitting in jail, doing time and wondering what went wrong.

On the other hand, if we express our emotions without aggression, rather assertiveness perhaps we can prevail and reap greater benefits. Keep in mind however, many people in the world mistake assertiveness as aggression. This is because we have so many under developed minds. The problem emerges from lack of meaning, purpose, poor points of views and so on.

Assertive people have self-confidence established. These people discovered facts and have evidence to support their claims. An assertive person has convictions, which makes him feel assured.

Many people believe that assertive people are pushy. Contrary to their point of view, these people only intend to affirm their statements, beliefs, convictions, etc. This is a healthy way of expressing your emotions.

Aggressive people on the other hand, often express belligerent emotions. These people try to force others under their power and control. They will often express hard lines with uncompromising messages that sometimes lead to hostility, violence, etc.

Instead of using healthy assertive to insist on their convictions, they will deliver hard-hitting messages, or sometimes, physical blows that cause harm.

To establish convictions we must find truths and understand our emotions. There is nothing wrong with feeling angry, yet we must learn to master this anger.

Think back. Think of a time someone made you angry. Think about how you expressed your emotions. Did you hit, bite, kick, or did you assertively express to this person that he or she has made you feel angry. If you did the latter option, then you did well and have a firm foundation of convictions in progress.

We have a right to cry when we feel hurt. Despite the lies that emerged from mottos, such as “Big boys don’t cry,” all of us have the right as humans to release pain and suffering. Crying is a helpful tool that assists us with expressing emotions effectively, as well as relieving grief, sorrow and pain.

Sometimes we may harbor resentment. You want to abandon these emotions as soon as possible, especially if you intend to gain mental, physical ease and supremacy. Resentment is anger, hatred, etc that often shows in your behaviors and is delivered to others as offensive, bile, or antipathy.

Resentment is a major roadblock that will drive us over the edge of the bridge. We want this removed. Therefore, learn to express your emotions freely, without adding fuel to the fires.

Most people are unaware that our emotions are major dictators that determine our fate in life. Our emotions house anger, fear, resentment, sadness, joy, etc. However, these emotions are powerless over the hearts inclinations. So many people were confused down through the centuries all because of the question “Should I follow my head, or should I follow my heart.” REO Speed Wagon sung this song also, making it a more powerful question.

The fact is you should follow your head once you establish your convictions. Inclinations of the heart develops our preferences, tendencies, likes, proclivity, learning, etc, but we have slopes, or partial learning to consider in our minds.

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