Are you trying to get your ex girlfriend back but she is not responding your messages? Maybe you did something that you should not have done. Don’t worry, you are not alone and there’s help.

The first steps to get your ex back are laid here. This is what you shouldn’t do and lay the path for a reconciliation. If you are doing these, stop right now and keep reading.

There are a lot of things you shouldn’t do to try to get your ex back. Here we will list just some of the most common ones you have to avoid immediately.

1) Don’t argue A lot of times, people will try to argue or beg with their girlfriend about the break up. It seems the logical thing to do anyway, isn’t it? Unfortunately, the most logical thing is usually not the most correct thing to do.

Trying to argue with your ex girlfriend will only make the situation worse. It will drive her further away and make more difficult to get her back. I understand that you want to talk about this, but in this moment trying to talk with your girlfriend is the wrong thing to do.

2) Spying You probably will want to spy on her to try to find out what happened. Maybe you worry she is seeing somebody else and want to catch her. Maybe you think she is secretly missing you and goes to all your favorite spots. Well, let me tell you, what is going to happen is that if she finds out you are spying on her, you will look like a fool.

3) Venting your anger on others. Most probably you feel angry about your break up. But venting it on other will not help you, specially your girlfriend. Don’t try to do it with your friends either, you don’t want to drive them away too. Also, news can spread very fast, and you don’t want your girlfiend to know that you are angry, but that you are cool. You have to learn to control yourself if you want that girl back.

You have to avoid these things so you can start to prepare the plan to get your ex back. This is just the beginning and you have to learn what to do next.