Let me ask you a question…

Do you have a favorite woman, yet despite all your romantic efforts, you remain just friends?

Do you know the reason for this occurrence?

Chances are it is because you did not flirt correctly with the woman.

Understand: Flirting is a very important part of the attraction process, and if you do it wrong (or worse yet, not at all!), the odds of blowing your chance with the girl go up significantly.

Why is flirting essential?

The answer is simple: Flirting is the process by which sexual tension is created!

And if you don’t have sexual tension in an interaction, there is no attraction. And if there’s no attraction, what does that make you?

Yes, that is right; it makes you simply a friend.

You can increase the attraction a woman finds in you by knowing how to flirt with her.

Flirting is a lot of fun and not so much a secret as some might consider, however when done incorrectly it will not work.

See, there’s an art to flirting with a woman. Flirting is all about communicating your sexual interest in the girl, without coming right out and SAYING it.

These are mixed signals.

Your words communicate something different than your actions are communicating.

Some of the more common mistakes of flirting with women that men make may include:

MISTAKE #1: They Are Too Obvious

Too many guys get excited about the women they are attracted to, and will come out and say exactly what they are feeling. What they don’t realize is that when presented with this information, the girl is then forced to make a judgment, right then and there, about how she feels about THEM.

You must lay the proper groundwork ahead of time, so you can avoid rejection.

MISTAKE #2: They Are Not Obvious Enough!

There are men who communicate no interest at all, since they assume the woman knows how they feel. This catches a woman by surprise because she has not clue of his interest.

MISTAKE #3: They Rely More On Words Than Actions

Although, flirting includes what you say and the way you say it, the most powerful performance comes from your non-verbal body language. The small simple things like raising an eyebrow, tilting your head to one side and that wicked little grin, that carries the most meaning in a seemingly innocent remark.

MISTAKE #4: Taking Things Too Seriously

Flirting, when done right, is light and fun. When guys try and make flirting more serious romantic gestures, the tension begins to break down.

If you’re not having fun when flirting - and more importantly, if the girl isn’t having fun - then you are doing something WRONG.

We could list more mistakes; however, this should provide you with a clear picture. Do you wonder what the right way to begin flirting is?

Use as many sexual overtones as possible, this is a good way to flirt, however, you must keep it subtle.

So for instance, if you’re at a bar, and the girl you’re with orders a drink and then turns to you and asks if you’d like something, you could jokingly say - “You’re not trying to get me drunk so you can take advantage of me, are you?” (Of course, this is said with a wink and a nod.)

This lets her know you are interested without saying it outright. Flirting is implication and it is fun and lighthearted.

On the other hand, when a woman says something temptingly naughty to you, you might say to her, Stop trying to seduce me, you minx! You know I don’t do that on the first date.

Consider how this works.

As you begin flirting more and more, you begin to get a bit more obvious about your interests, although you never really step over that line.

As you do this, you’ll begin to notice how the attraction between you and the girl starts to build and build. And before you know it, that harmless flirting becomes an outright SEDUCTION.

The real fun begins at this point.