To re-establish an intimate relationship after a hasty but messy break-up requires courage as well as humility on your side so that you can honestly assess the possibilities of winning back an ex-partner who probably is as hurt as you are. Find out if both still keep a hoard of affection needed in undergoing the healing process together. The former partner must be as willing as you are to hold dialogues and to discuss, without ranting, issues that frayed your bond. You’ve got to make sure therefore that both of you are still on the same wavelength.

Writing a letter to your ex is a good place to begin. Put down on paper all the emotional things that you find it difficult to say to your ex in person. You’ll generally find it easier to write down your feelings to let your ex know where you stand. Once they are aware of your feelings on the issues, they may realize how much you really want them to come back. If a letter isn’t your style, try sending them a poem or whatever works best for you

Another good step to getting your ex back is to plan a day together doing things you know you both like to do. This will ensure that you two should get back together, to test if the chemistry is still there between you. Go see a movie, catch a dinner, go shopping, something that you both can do and interact with other.

Be sure to allow time for talking on your day together, but don’t be afraid to have fun as well. If your ex wants to come back, the fun part of your day will be a reminder of the good times you’ve had before and the good times you can have again. This will help you both to see how it can be if you get back together again.

Another step in this process is to do something for your ex. If you’re a good cook, fix a romantic supper and invite them over. If you’re crafty, make them a gift from your heart. You can even buy them something you know they’ve been wanting for a long time. This way they’ll know that you’re still thinking of them and that you still care about them. Assuming they still have feelings for you as well, this gesture should make them reconsider reviving the relationship.

Keep communication clear between the both of you. Let them know what you want from them, and tell them what you’re willing to do for them to get the relationship back. Your ex will be able to know if you are sincere and this will grab them and bring them back to you.

Sincerity is the most important thing when attempting to get an ex back. Communicate with them and let your feelings out and help them let their feelings out as well. Once you both decide that re-establishing the relationship is what you both want, it’s time to try. By this time, you should have figured out what the problem was that caused this break up, and you can begin to work together to overcome the problem. If all goes well, your ex will realize that the two of you belong together, and should have never parted in the first place.