Thinking about why you need your girlfriend isn’t going to help to bring her back.

It will only make you more miserable…full of self pity, doubt, anxiety and then cascading down into despair and desperation.

Not very attractive - right?

Why do you think you will be so lost without her? Not sure how you will manage by yourself? Afraid of being alone?

Now I don’t mean to come down hard on you guys, but it’s time to pull yourself together. Maybe there are some realities you need to face about yourself first, before you can be the type of guy that really can attract their ex back, or any girl for that matter.

Being clingy and needy just aren’t qualities that will win you admiration from women. Think about how it plays at the movies, the stereotypical desperate dumpee that gets a few humiliating laughs throughout the show, you don’t want to play the role in real life - believe me!

If you are afraid of being alone, no one else can fix that for you for long, so even if you do get her back it will just be a band-aid and you’ll still be afraid of losing her again.

So what is the answer here? How about finding yourself instead of needing her? Find out what makes you strong and gets you happy.

Now I’m not going all mushy on you here, and talk about self love and self esteem can send some guys running faster than a greased leopard, but we’re talking about you having to live with yourself the rest of your life, whether you get your girlfriend back or not.

Having to live with any fear, fear of being alone or fear of anything else for that matter is living a restricted life.

Face your fear and find out that it isn’t real, choose some self respect instead of neediness and let real love surface for your ex girlfriend instead of desperate attempts to get her back.

Switch your focus right now to what you really love about your ex girlfriend, and some positive reasons why you want to win her back and then get SMART about the next moves you want to make increase your chances for success.