Every man, at one point in his life, hears those horrible words fall from the lips of a woman, “I just want to be friends.” These “Nice Guys” usually have a lot of female friends, but can never get a girlfriend. Chances are, they are making some key mistakes in the world of dating and women.

There are rules to every game, and the game of attraction is no different. Each rule is important in itself - break them all and you will fail miserably with women. Learn them all - and you will party like a rock star.

Rule one - attraction is not, actually, a choice. the first time I heard someone say that, I think it was David Deangelo, I was like wow - that is so simple but its so true. You cannot choose who you are attracted to, and neither can a woman. That can be used to your advantage.

The second law of attraction - the attractive people have the pick of the pack. In particular - the hot women. They can almost any man they want, right? They know it. Men tell them! All the time! Beautiful women are approached CONSTANTLY. Every day - several times a day. So try to see this from HER point of view - if she gave her attention to every Chuck Schmuck that wanted it, she could not get through a day. So if you want her attention, you better earn it.

Rule three in attraction is my favorite. Attraction does not make SENSE. That means - every girl says she wants a guy she can bring home to her Mama who will love her and treat her like a queen and rub her back and bring her flowers. But then she dates Michael Motorcycle who treats her like crap - and she chases HIM. Why? (Hint - see rule 1)

Law four is often overlooked, but it is crucial. Status counts. No woman is going to be attracted to a man that she thinks is licking the heels of the big ddog in front of him. If you want to get her attention, you have to be an alpha male, the leader of your pack.

The thing is - women are on the lookout for the man that sparks that attraction in her. She may not even know what that “thing” is, but I do. That thing that women want is the man to be a real MAN. Not a wuss, not a wimp, not a “nice guy”. That may seem counterintuitive - but let me ask you this - how’s your current game plan working out for you so far?

What can you do to stop the attraction killing behavior? There are a few simple steps you can take to get your cajones back and get the girl. One - stop being NICE to attractive women. No compliments, no pleasing her, no gifts, no crap just to make her like you. As a matter of fact - bust on her a bit. Tell her she is a brat. Tell her she is being bad and you won’t talk to her until she can be nice.

The second thing you can do to bolster your own attraction is to start saying no to attractive women. Yes, I mean no. Say you are out at the local laundromat and there is a hottie there washing her sexy black lingerie. She asks you for a quarter because she is one short. Tell her no! The after she has quit sputtering, after all, she is used to getting what she wants, give her the quarter and tell her that you changed your mind since she looks so destitute.

Three - respect YOURSELF and grow a pair, you know what I mean? Remember that you are YOU, and do not put aside your personality, your beliefs or your wants and needs for any woman. Or anyone, for that matter. Respect yourself and you will get respect.