Most people have heard the term “playing not to lose” before. If you haven’t, you just did. This term gets thrown around a lot when a team, or a person, gets into something and focuses solely on NOT losing.

All they can focus on is simply not losing.

And you know what usually ends up happening. They end up losing.

Focusing on that which you don’t want is an amazing strategy to get exactly what you don’t want!

If you’re playing a game, trying not to lose is like playing defense until the other person wins. How effective can that be? Instead of trying to win, you are trying to keep the other person from scoring, and, by the time the games over, you realize you’ve missed each and every opportunity that you had, because you were too focused on not losing.

How about trying to win instead?

I know, that’s a crazy idea.

If you have a goal to go towards, you will go forwards, towards that goal. When you are continuously thinking about an outcome that you do not want your mind only recognizes that FOCUS as your goal. Your mind doesn’t understand goals in the negative, so when you are so intent on how much you “do not want to fail”, you know what ends up happening? You fail.

You must have something that you can aim for. It’s not any different from aiming at a pin when you’re bowling, or at the hole when you’re golfing. Know what you WANT, and know how to get there.

Give yourself a direction to go and set yourself up for success.

If you’re looking for a real job online, decide what it is that will make that online job real! If you are just trying to believe you can do it in the first place, focus on that!

Browse our site for ideas, get some self help books, and really try to understand how you can assist yourself in reaching that target.

Create scenarios that will assist you in getting where you ultimately want to get to.

If it means cutting the cable (figuratively of course) then so be it.

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